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Fear Will Cripple You

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In middle school and in highschool I had this amazing mentor whose name was Ms. Jean! I love Ms. Jean because she is awesome at math and tutoring me, she would give up time out of her day to teach me at various restaurants in DC and treat me out to eat. Without her I didn’t know how I would have passed any of my math classes. She always looked over my homework to make sure everything was correct and I felt smarter with her around. When I graduated from highschool I was happy but I also experienced a few other emotions. I wanted Ms. Jean to come with me to college to help me with college level math but she told me it was time for me to find my way and she believed I would be fine without her tutoring me in college. 

 

I got comfortable with her being there and the thought of her not being there to make sure my work was correct made me nervous, afraid and worried.  I believed I would not be able to pass without her. I panicked when I failed the math placement test at my university and had to enroll in a remedial math course.

 

 In my remedial math class I became overwhelmed ,I had no patience, I didn’t take my time with the work. I was working full-time and didn’t take good enough notes to grasp all the concepts I should have understood before taking exams. My stress level was at an all time high and I was convinced I wouldn’t be able to pass remedial math without Ms. Jean. My fear was crippling me in this moment from doing my best in this class. I failed my remedial math classes and ended up taking it a second time and quit my full-time job. The second time I took remedial math, I passed. 

Fear causes mental damage. Leaving a once whole person now crippled. Where does fear typically come from? What does fear do to our life? How do we get rid of fear? I aim to answer all these questions in my blog post today. 

 

A few emotions connected to fear:

  1. Worried
  2. Overwhelmed 
  3. Nervous 
  4. Sad
  5. Afraid 

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“Replace your FEAR with FAITH”

– Porchia Suber 

 

Fear comes from the devil (Read-2 Timothy 1:7). We know this because in God’s word he tells us that he doesn’t give us the spirit of fear. God does not want us to fear but have faith in him and his ability to help us and provide all of our needs. Fear typically also comes from doubts and various emotions that you may experience all at once. Some of those emotions can be worried, overwhelmed, nervous, sad and afraid. Certain life situations may make us feel that our fears are justified! 

 

Unfortunately those justified fears that you are holding on to are not helping you but crippling you! 

 

I personally believe letting go of fear and replacing it with faith is possible for everyone to do but it is your choice!  Do you want to live in fear or do you want to walk in your purpose experiencing all the joy, love and peace God has for you? The choice should be easy, because no one wants to be miserable. No one wants to live a life without love and a life that is unfulfilling. 

 

I know you’re afraid but your blessing is connected to you stepping out on faith! Take God’s hand and take a leap of faith! Keep moving and praying while you feel worried, overwhelmed, nervous, sad and afraid. With every step you take in the right direction God is going to help you get through all those emotions and in the end you will be glad you stayed the course.   

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Isaiah 41:13 NIV

For I am the Lord your God  who takes hold of your right hand and says to you, Do not fear; I will help you.

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Hello Chapter 25

“If there is no struggle, there is no progress.” -Frederick Douglass

Today is my last day being 24 years old. I was Born February 13th, and tomorrow is my 25th birthday so to celebrate I wanted to share with you a few things I have learned. 

5 Things I Learned from 18-24 Years old

1.Create your own path!

  •   Don’t ever feel limited. You don’t have to do things how they have always been done. 

2. Eliminate “Save Me” mentality!

  • No one is coming to get you out of your mess or to make your life drastically better. Let me explain, sometimes we allow our experiences, lack of support, toxic relationships to distract us from what we really should be doing.
  • There are no super women or super man in the world. Lean solely on God. Why? God is dependable. 

3. Be PATIENT, there is a reason for the wait. 

  • Patience is a area that you don’t want to lack in. Accept the delay as time for you to work on something else, rest or get closer to God. Sometimes we aren’t ready for what we think we want right now. Be careful for what you ask for.

4. Faith Maintenance is a MUST

  • Read-Hebrews 11:6 . Faith is apart of your spiritual armor, if you don’t have it or are lacking it you need to check yourself. Go to your quiet place and spend more time with God to restore the faith you are lacking.  
  • Sometimes certain life circumstances can allow us to feel that we were robbed of our faith but we can’t allow that to happen. Don’t let anything, anyone, or any experience  separate you from the love of God. 

5. Always Pray!

  • Pray about everything you do, every relationship, friendship, community your apart of etc. Sometimes God is trying to get our attention but we refuse to make time for him. We need to be able to hear God and be guided by him. 

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I recently learned through prayer that I was my biggest hindrance for the longest time. 

Short Story time:

The book I recently launched. I wrote that book in high school. I got it copyrighted and did a photoshoot on my 21st birthday for the book (keep in mind I turn 25 tomorrow, I withheld the book for over 4 years) . I had everything I needed to launch the book a long time ago but I never did it.

Apart of me wants to believe I was waiting for a certain level of support. I kept allowing life and people to discourage me from walking in my purpose. God had to take me back to a place I never wanted to go back to in order to wake me up. He gave me this assignment a long time ago and I was disobedient but I finally surrendered.

I finally let my will for myself die and submitted to Gods will for my life. I submit to Gods timeline not mine. The moment I submitted, God blessed my husband with the resources we needed to properly promote and market the book. This is just my way of letting you know when God tells you to move you need to move period.  

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Dear God, 

Thank you for pushing me in 2020. Thank you for sharpening me with everything I have been through. I have learned so many lessons. I aim to make you proud and grow closer to you everyday. Anything that is not like you please bring it to my attention so I can quickly correct it. I still struggle with forgiveness, moving on from my past and staying focus but I know your strength is made perfect in my weakness. I know you are are able to heal the parts of me that feel broken. No matter how I may feel I know I am not broken beyond repair because I have you as my father. You know exactly what I have need of in this season of my life. I trust that you will provide for me and my husband and meet every last one of our needs. 

If you don’t do anything else for little ole me then I won’t worry because honestly father you have done enough. I am grateful for life, health and strength. In Jesus name we pray. 

Amen. 

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Relentless

Relentless is defined as persistent and unyielding. If you google the word unyielding it is defined as not giving way to pressure; hard or solid. The question I ask you today is:

Will you be swayed to fold under pressure or will you hold upright posture and stand as the relentless individual you are? 

I pray that you are encouraged and inspired from the words of this poem. 

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Poem Title: “Relentless” 

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Relentless, nothing can stop you

You go from good to great to unstoppable

You accomplish every goal 

Overcome every obstacle, 

That was designed to block and stop you 

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Relentless, nothing can stop you 

Because your mind is made up

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You are sensitive to the voice of God 

You desire nothing more than to

Walk daily in your purpose 

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Your confidence is radiant 

Your smile is beautiful, 

Others can feel your presence

As it exudes positive vibes only 

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You are the definition of 

An everlasting peaceful bliss 

through the perfect life storm 

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Your head is never hung low, 

In any season your lips speak life 

Your words are positive 

Your eyes never wonder

Which direction you should go

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This is because you lean not 

To your own understanding

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You pray for guidance and refuse 

To walk in the footsteps of others 

Instead you create your own path 

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Realizing we all have two feet, but not

Everyone will continue to walk 

When everything in your life tells 

You not give up 

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Relentless, nothing can stop you 

Being relentless requires you to 

Understand that you are strong

Even when you are weak you are strong 

Because God’s grace is sufficient for you, 

God’s strength is made perfect in weakness 

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Being a relentless

Requires unshakable faith but it is a choice 

One must make everyday 

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You are  Relentless! You are Fierce! You are Bold! You are Strong! You are Beautiful/ Handsome! You must take time everyday to speak life to yourself. This poem spoke of a relentless individual. Imagine walking down the street and something good just happened to you. You are smiling, grinning ear to ear, head held high, your faith in God is your guide and your confidence is radiant. Maybe you got a new job or maybe you just became debt free, you finally cleaned up the house or just completed your childhood trauma healing journey. Don’t you want to be that relentless individual full of joy and unspeakable peace walking down the street enjoying another day you’re alive? Utter Chaos may surround you but God is able to give you peace through the process. 

The beautiful thing about life is that although we may feel alone at times we don’t have to be alone. People walk in and out of your life everyday but God will always be there for you! 

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I thank you Jesus for giving me insight to give my readers nourishment for their mind, body and soul. Rest kings and queens of the most high, soaking in the fact that God’s got us! You are Destined For Greater!

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You have Options!

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“Everyone has a covering. Some cover you with an umbrella while others cover you with a roof. The umbrella covering is controlling and manipulative; it only covers you as long as you move at their will and in their direction! The roof allows you the freedom to grow, develop, and be your authentic self, mess up, or even break down without fear of being exposed!”

Keionna Singleton  (Instagram: @keionnadavon) 

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Can I be transparent, Destined For Greater Family? 

2020 was a rollercoaster for me emotionally! When I look at the quote above it reminds me of my childhood, past relationships, friendships, jobs  (not all of them but a good handful of them) etc. There was always that somebody with the umbrella in my life. From the surface it seemed safe under their covering but eventually they would take it away. I would be left feeling stuck, blindsided and bitter. I believe I desperately craved, majority of my life to find somewhere I could call “Home” and I looked for that home in relationships, friendships, living with other people because I felt rejected, unsupported and unprotected from my blood family.

At one point this year I was faced with the decision to :

Option #1

Continue to create unhealthy bonds, continue being depressed and bitter. Continue to ignore the call on my life and keep experiencing people snatching their umbrella from over my head…

Or 

Option #2:

 Allow my father in heaven Jesus Christ to create a roof. A permanent covering over my head and life without worrying about if he will change his mind because he promised me in his word that he would never leave me nor forsake me (Deuteronomy 31:6 NIV). In addition to allowing  my husband to cover me and a few close friends that love and support the journey I’m on . 

Your assumption was correct, I picked Option #2 ! Trust me, I would not be talking to you today if I had not made a decision in 2020 to let my father provide a roof for me. Trusting and having faith in my heavenly father is what got me where I am today. I also had God’s grace and mercy. I’m going to keep it real with you, even though I thought at one point in my life God left me because of how alone I felt, I have come to realize my father never left me! 

Our father desires nothing but the best for us and wants us to use our experiences and pain as a testimony to all his children.Destined For Greater, was originally birthed from God personally saving my life when I wanted to take my own life.  My father reached all the way at the bottom of the barrel to lift me up, even after I pushed him away, rejected his love and became ashamed of him. My father still chose me even when I didn’t choose him!  

I want my readers to know you have options! You’re never as stuck as you think you are! You can allow God to use what you’re hiding from to bring his kingdom glory  or you can remain in a dysfunctional state. 

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 I am thankful today God gives us the power of choice! My favorite parable is the Parable of the Good Samaritan (Check out Luke 10:25-37). I learned as I got older that I do not have to be like the people that held umbrellas over my head, I can choose to be a roof for the people I cross paths with  in my life even if it’s just for a season with God’s help. 

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It won’t be easy !

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I was inspired the other night during intimate time with God to write this poem after struggling creatively for a while now. As I encourage myself I encourage my Destined For Greater Family! 

Poem Title: “It won’t be easy!” 

Who told you it would be easy?

Carrying a cross as a believer  can sometimes get heavy

But it is definitely not easy 

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It is not popular 

It is even harder,  when your broke

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Not one cent to your name

Not one job will callback 

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When it seems like there is no hope 

Faith is what will keep your head up

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Get your jacked up posture in tact!

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Who told you it would be easy? 

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Trusting someone you don’t see isn’t easy 

Allowing your will to die to serve the fathers 

Is not easy 

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It is not easy because  our flesh says,  

I want my way 

I don’t want to pray today 

I don’t want to fast today 

I don’t want to grow today 

I don’t want to do right today 

I can’t forgive today 

I can’t be mature today 

I can’t encourage someone today 

I can’t read the word today 

I can’t give my time today 

I can’t be the better person today 

I want my name to be great 

But we can’t receive the promise 

If we don’t  do it his way 

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Who told you it would be easy? 

It will never be easy 

You may know a lot about him and still doubt him 

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What makes serving the father worth it? 

Knowing that God sees everything 

Knowing that God’s love never fails 

He loves all of his creation 

He wants to know if you will still 

Be consistent if you never 

Receive another blessing 

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Will you be grateful & thankful 

For what you have 

Or be focused on what you desire so bad 

You miss the opportunity to be 

A good steward 

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It will never be easy. 

Who told you it would be easy?

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Everything is falling into place

Blog Post Inspiration: 

“Sometimes when things are falling apart they may actually be falling into place.” –

Fritz Chery 

We may think that our situation has the potential to destroy us but this season could be the thing  that pushes us closer to walking in our purpose!

Let me give you an example. I am the type of person who loves to stay busy, I sometimes over work myself and don’t know when to stop and slow down. In 2020 there were two different occasions where I was unemployed.  

I hate being unemployed, I love working! I enjoy having my own money and being able to take care of my needs. During those two seasons of unemployment it was almost a blessing in disguise because I was able to think, come up with creative ideas, work on my health, work on a few projects. It’s not that I didn’t need money, I did. Those seasons of unemployment for a person who likes to work all the time gave me a moment to rediscover myself. Although from the outside I was struggling, on the inside unemployment also allowed me to become more intimate with God while applying for jobs. My faith is what gave me the strength to keep applying for jobs after getting rejection after rejection. My faith is what reminded me that what I was experiencing now was only temporary. 

Those 2 seasons helped me to  learn how to trust God. I was raised in the church and I can be honest and say I didn’t know how to trust God! I started to learn how to trust God after asking God to show me how to trust him. Reading his word, spending time with him while being afflicted in my lowest moments helped me learn how to. 

 I trusted God while filing for unemployment for the first time in my life in 2020, I trusted God when I got denied assistance. What helped was realizing although from the outside things looked as though they were falling apart they were actually falling into place. 

You can read the bible like everyone else. You can hear all types of bible stories, pray out loud till your voice cracks and still not believe God can turn it around. 

Believing has and always will be a choice. I personally believe that once you have had a changed mind then your heart will follow and so will your thoughts. I personally had to go through a storm and hit rock bottom with no one to call for me to realize God existed and I needed him. 

I have good news for my thriving family! 

Philippians 1:29 

“For you have been given not only the privilege of trusting in Christ but also the privilege of suffering for him.”

Romans 5:3

“And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience;”

Proverbs 19:21 

“Many Plans are in a man’s heart, but the purpose of the LORD will prevail.”

Jeremiah 29:11 

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “ plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

God has a plan whether you believe it or not! God wants the best for you, have faith today with me! Understand, it’s all falling into place!

I thank you Jesus for giving me insight to give my readers nourishment for their mind, body and soul. Rest kings and queens of the most high, soaking in the fact that God’s got us! You are Destined for Greater! 

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Shift Your Attention

“They Can’t Hold You Back Without Your Permission.”

Trent Shelton -YouTube Video: “Watch this if you have haters”

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It is  very easy to give others permission to hold us back.This is a fact  because most of us have no control over our thoughts or emotions, I know for a long time I didn’t. If someone says something about me or someone I love that is not true, I would instantly get offended, be sensitive and emotional wreck. Quick and ready to defend myself and the person I love.  All of which makes me human but what if I told you there is a better way for us to react!  

Would you believe me if I told you that it is possible for us to have peace in the midst of being attacked?  

Time to break it down, this is what we know:

  1. People are going to say what they want to say 
  2. People do what they want to do 
  3. People believe what they want to believe 
  4. People don’t always consider how you feel 

If we know the 4 things listed above apply to all humans regardless of their spiritual beliefs, then why do we give people who do so little for us power to control our emotions, thoughts and our life? Even if you try to explain to people that how they view us is not who we are, guess what? They will not change their opinion of us because,  #3 “ People believe what they want to believe.” 

When someone says something that is not true about us, that shouldn’t change our mood or what we had planned to do that day.

Here are steps to take to ensure that the negativity around us doesn’t affect us. We can intentionally disregard the negativity around us by shifting our attention to who we are and where we are headed because that is all that matters. 

We can have peace in the midst of being personally attacked because..

  1. We know who you are and what you bring to the table
  2. We know our struggles and understand that our past does not define us
  3. We know what God thinks of us (Jeremiah 29:11., 1 Peter 2:9.)
  4. We know that your eyes are fixed forward 

As we shift our attention from our negative environment in order to protect our peace. Remember this quick motto to remind yourself:

“If you can’t build others up, shut up.” -Porchia Suber 

What does the bible say?

Ephesians 4:29 ESV

“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”

We don’t need to gossip, clap back or talk down about the person that attacked us . We will hold our tongue, pray for them, continue forward and maintain our peace. If we make a decision to do what they do then we are no better than our attackers. 

We refuse to give anyone permission to hold us back, steal our joy or rob us of our peace. We thrive today by understanding the control we have over our emotions, thoughts and how we react to negativity. 

No one can hold you back but yourself,  it’s your time! 

I thank God for giving me insight to give my readers nourishment for their mind, body and soul. Rest kings and queens of the most high, soaking in the fact that God’s got us!

I want to thank you for joining my journey as I walk in my purpose everyday by encouraging people all around the globe. You may have noticed I say “We” a lot in my post, I say it because “We” are in this journey called life together. My favorite african proverb says, “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”

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I thank you Jesus for giving me insight to give my readers nourishment for their mind, body and soul. Rest kings and queens of the most high, soaking in the fact that God’s got us! You are Destined for Greater! 

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-Trent Shelton -Youtube Video: “Watch this if you have haters”

-African Proverb: https://www.passiton.com/inspirational-quotes/7293-if-you-want-to-go-fast-go-alone-if-you-want

Scripture :

https://www.openbible.info/topics/speaking_ill_of_others

-https://activechristianity.org/19-bible-verses-showing-gods-thoughts-toward-us

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An Overflow Of The Heart

Blog Post Inspiration:

So often, I think we try to avoid regret–all the “should haves”–because we don’t want to be in that pain. Many times that is the best route. Sometimes, however, God wants us to revisit some areas, because they are still affecting us. 

We may need to recall them to mind and process them so He can heal us and teach us valuable lessons, vital to our walk today.”

Excerpt by: Belah Rose

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The Importance of Self-Reflection

Self-Reflection Defined 

Word: Self-Reflection 

Definition:  “The activity of thinking about your own feelings and behavior, and the reasons that may lie behind them.” (Cambridge Dictionary)

It is important to self-reflect because we may be unaware of our own destructive habits. A destructive habit could be something as simple as turning down every compliment that is given with an attitude because of our lack of confidence in ourselves. 

Turning down those compliments with an attitude by saying, “You’re just trying to be nice, stop it.” “ Oh, whatever, I’m not beautiful.” could be your way of telling others I’m uncomfortable in my own skin and I don’t want anyone else to see me as anything more than just a normal person. That person in this example truly believes that they aren’t special and that they aren’t beautiful. 

This example should make you wonder. Where did those insecurities originate from? This person may have gone through an experience that caused them to see themselves differently. 

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The Mouth Speaks From The Overflow Of The Heart 

The bible says in Luke 6:45 CSB “ A good person produces good out of the good stored up in his heart. An evil person produces evil out of the evil stored up in his heart, for his mouth speaks from the overflow of the heart.” This scripture is very clear that if something is going on in our hearts we will tell on ourselves eventually because your heart can only take but so much until it overflows no matter how strong we think we are. When the overflow happens everyone will be able to see what’s really going on in our heart and sometimes that’s when we lose control of our emotions, say anything out of our mouth and break down mentally, emotionally and sometimes physically too. 

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Protect Your Heart At All Cost 

Proverbs 4:23

“Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.” Check out Proverbs 4 20-27. You will learn that in order to guard your heart you must fill it with God’s word. When our life is full of God’s truth and love then life will flow from our hearts.” 

“You thought you were over it but in actuality you have been stagnant this entire time, you just didn’t know it.”

-Porchia Suber 

Self-reflection is crucial to our personal growth and personal wellness. We must have a desire to put in the work to eliminate destructive habits and create healthy ones. Self-reflection presents the opportunity for us to self-examine why we do what we do. As a result of us taking time to work on ourselves we will improve all other relationships in our life because we started with ourselves first. Your Improving your relationships in your life because you are aware of your triggers, you know when to leave a room, how to speak to people, what you say with your words that can hurt others etc. 

Self-reflection is essential when we speak of our healing journeys. It can be so hard to go back and think about hurtful, painful memories, I am speaking from experience. It sucks because all you want to do is move forward with your life. 

In order to move forward sometimes you have to revisit the past to see what valuable lessons were to be learned from that storm. Self-reflection presents a teaching moment with our father because sometimes when we don’t listen and don’t take that time to reflect we will end up in a cycle of constantly repeating history. 

Wondering why in our mind we have moved forward but our heart is still playing that sad tune and our feet have remained stagnant. 

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I thank you Jesus for giving me insight to give my readers nourishment for their mind, body and soul. Rest kings and queens of the most high, soaking in the fact that God’s got us! You are Destined for Greater! 

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